We can only live freely by doing what we love if we face up to, accept, and work through certain fundamental, common fears. Dr John Demartini shows us how.
There are seven areas of life we are here on this earth to master: spiritual, mental, vocational, financial, familial, social and physical. They can either be powerfully supportive of your genius or impede it. There are also seven common fears, and a feeling of guilt, that fragment our full potential in each of these areas of life, and the only difference between somebody who does what they love and someone who doesn’t is that the former has the ability to identify his or her fears and has a strategy to break through them.
THE SEVEN FEARS THAT LIMIT SELF BELIEF
The first fear is the spiritual fear of breaking some perceived authority’s ethics. Morals are the rules we impose on ourselves, and ethics are the imposed rules between others and ourselves. Many people let those fears stop them from doing what they love and expressing their genius because they fear that others may not approve of them.
The second fear is the mental fear of not knowing enough.
This fear can keep you from doing what you really love by telling yourself: ‘I just don’t know enough. I’m not smart enough. I don’t have the education for it.’ This is another illusion because you have the capacity to do whatever you dream of doing at the level you’re on now and grow to the next. No matter how much you know, you will always have the unknown. You attract opportunities according to your level of knowing. As you know more, you grow more. By loving yourself even when you don’t know, you liberate yourself to learn.
The third fear is the vocational fear of failure.
You must be able to love failure as much as success since you fail and succeed equally and constantly. Have you ever set yourself goals and not fulfilled them? Everyone does. You’re a success and failure constantly throughout your life, and you need both.
The fourth fear is the financial fear of poverty.
Here you fear that if you were to do what you truly would love to do, you won’t make enough money at it. If you love something and are committed to doing whatever it takes to succeed, value money highly, and follow the financial laws of success and save, you can certainly build wealth doing what you would love.
The fifth fear is around family and losing your loved ones.
Many people feel that if they do what they love they will lose someone they love. I think that what stabilised my marriage is the realisation that we don’t so much need each other as we just love each other. There’s a big difference. We both have an independent life and if either of us were to leave, the other would still function.
The sixth fear is the fear of social rejection.
This is a big fear. Some people are not doing what they love because they’re afraid people will reject them. The truth is, acceptance and rejection are conserved throughout your life and the more extraordinary you become the more you will receive of both. Learn to appreciate both equally and you will set yourself free. People come and go, they’re transient, but you’re with you for the whole trip and it’s your life. Never sacrifice the eternal for the transient. Embrace both sides of life equally.
The seventh and last fear is the fear of ill health, death or disease.
Some people don’t live their dream because they’re afraid they’ll die if they do, or they won’t have the energy. But the greatest cause of illness, disease and death is not living your dreams. That’ll kill you quicker than anything else. Inspiration and gratitude heal and empower, and if you’re not doing what you love, you’ll feel ungrateful and desperate.
You can break through or break down in all seven areas of life. If you break down you’re listening to your fearful self, if you break through you’ve listened to your immortal self. But don’t think that you’re ever going to be without fears in your life. Fear means you’re growing and challenging yourself beyond your comfort zones. I have fears almost every day, but I know that fear is an incomplete view of what is occurring so I identify the fear, bring it to completion and balance and then walk through it. I suggest you do the same.