Overcoming Life’s Knocks
‘Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small, large or petty – never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.’ The shortest speech ever by Winston Churchill.
As was the case with Britain, great success can follow against all odds. Some of us survive adversity and thrive and some fall apart spectacularly. Mostly, the falling apart builds resilience. We all have the ability to be resilient to a certain degree, but resilience can also be developed through thinking, behavioural changes and learned life skills.
I believe it is your choice. Catch yourself in the moment and make the right choice. The difficult one may not be that difficult if you compare it to the ‘easy way out’ after substance abuse as one example of an unhealthy coping mechanism. You make it more difficult for yourself as you first have to recover, and then try again.
You are in control of your life. Have trust, perspective and persevere. Develop positive self-talk and avoid running your victim story. Build your support structure and look for the funny things in life. Find those things that make you laugh and spend your time there, rather than listening to sad songs that will only bring more sadness. There are some very funny reels on social media!
According to our expert psychologist and natural health practitioner, Dr Adolf Lowies: ‘Resilience won’t make your problems go away but can give you the ability to see past them, find some meaning, and survive whatever life is dealing you. It can help you endure loss, chronic stress, traumatic events, change and other challenges. Resilient individuals have cultivated a sense of forgiveness, and regardless of the setback or slight, they are able to box it up, put it in a package and let go of it. It is in the act of struggling with the senselessness of it all that our human spirit is kindled and tempered.’
Make the right choice and support your recovery. Adapt to stressors by being more flexible and tolerant and then add a dash of optimism!
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